Self-help is an exciting subject. If you read the right books and follow the right people, the knowledge and wisdom can help you turn your life around, but if you get carried away, it can end up becoming one of the things you binge on. Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins is probably the first self-help book I read, and it did make a massive difference to my life. Many things that I have accomplished so far in my life can be credited to the wisdom I learned from Tony Robbins and his book Unlimited Power. Listed below are some of my notes while I read the book. I hope you will enjoy reading it and feel free to share the post on your website, Facebook account or any medium you like.
In Unlimited Power, Tony Robbins addresses the people who feel inadequate or thinks that they cannot make a positive change in their life due to some limitation. Whether the restraint is in your mind or due to some other physical barrier, Tony emphasizes that this limitation is probably 80% due to the thoughts or fears you have in your mind. So, he gives you some practical strategies to overcome them and bring about a positive change! Mainly he went over the techniques such as modeling another person, tips, and tricks to sharpen your imagination or memory and how to take control of your own body to produce the type of feelings you want to feel on a daily basis!
Failure is Part of the Cycle
Most societies frown upon failures, and they usually encourage you to win at all times. However, according to Tony Robbins, you cannot escape failure if you wish to achieve a significant amount of success in your life. Some of the examples he gave were of Thomas Edison and Abraham Lincoln. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times before he could figure out how to make lightbulbs work. Similarly, Abraham Lincoln couldn’t succeed as a businessman, lost his wife very early in his life, couldn’t do well in politics but eventually became one of the most celebrated presidents of the United States of America.
Tony suggests that instead of feeling down or irritated when you are not achieving your goals, take a quick look at yourself, your voice and the words you use. The trick is to accept failure as part of the process, take notes on why you failed to achieve your goals and change your words and thoughts to positive thoughts or words to counter any negative feelings you might be going through. If people like Abraham Lincoln or Thomas Edison gave up on their goals and saw failure as the end goal, they wouldn’t have achieved the things they did. So, don’t let failure define your purpose. It’s just an outcome that is telling you what not to repeat the next time! So, take notes when you fail!
Your Emotions & Physiology
Believe it or not but your emotions greatly depend on your current physiology. As in how you are sitting, standing, walking, talking, the tone of your voice and even the present expression of your face. Tony Robbins in Unlimited Power asked his readers to close their eyes and imagine two scenarios. In one situation, you are asked to imagine someone who is depressed or down. Odds are he is looking down, has a sad facial expression, breathing slowly/shallow or speaking in a very weak tone of voice. However, if you imagine someone who is energetic, happy and excited, the way he moves is very different. Odds are he’s excited, has a smile on their face, chest up and breathing with confidence.
Tony argues that no matter how you are feeling at the moment, it’s directly connected to how your physical body is. Your body cannot generate the feelings you experience without you making physical changes. So, if you are feeling down, unhappy and not confident, then immediately change the way you are sitting, standing, breathing and talking. After acting as if you are happy, excited or optimistic for a minute or two, you will start to feel better!
Model Your Way to Success
Odds are you want to do something better with your life. You want to reach more goals, make more money or produce outstanding work. However, for some reason, you cannot do them. Tony argues that it’s because you are not doing the things a successful individual is doing. So, the trick is to figure out exactly what they do and emulate the same in your life!
He mainly gave two detailed examples. In one of the models, Tony was invited to train the US Army soldiers to improve their shooting accuracy. Tony himself never held a gun before, but he managed to improve the success rate of those soldiers to 100% from 70% success rate. Tony was able to train those soldiers not by studying the soldiers who were struggling but by emulating the top performers. Mainly, he studied the top performer’s thoughts, physiology and the reasons why they were shooting. He relayed his findings to the rest of the soldiers, and after emulating the same behavior, everyone improved their shooting accuracy.
The other example Tony went over was on how to become a world-class skier. Listed below are his modeling technique:
Step 1: Find a Gold Medal Skier and study his exact movements.
Step 2: Practice those exact movements yourself.
Step 3: Close your eyes and visualize yourself performing those movements on a daily basis. Continue to do so until the images become vivid and very clear in your mind.
Step 4: Visualize and see yourself as the world-class skier. Practice daily until the image is vivid and sticks to your mind.
Step 5: Ski regularly and you should see massive improvements to your performance.
Activating Your Memory & Imagination
Tony argues that your brain doesn’t work on its own. You do certain things to activate specific parts of your brain or the mind. For example, when you are asked to think about a particular thing or try to recall something, your eyes will point up and toward the right. Your body physically does this to stimulate the parts of the brain that helps you remember facts.
However, if you are asked to imagine something that’s not real (e.g., imagine a lion with the head of a lion, body of a lizard and has a scorpion’s tail), your eyes tend to move sideways rather than upwards. So, Tony suggests that when you need to memorize something, you deliberately move your eyes to the top-right to stimulate your brain to recall quickly and also deliberately move your eyes sideways when you need to come up with a creative solution.
Techniques to Communicate Better
Communication is how we can connect to others and also with ourselves. Tony suggests that we tend to communicate in three ways. They are by voice, visually and by touch. One of them tends to be more dominant than the other, but we all rely on all three of them nonetheless. So, the trick is to pay attention to the type words or phrase someone is using to get a clue of which sense is most dominant in his or her life.
For example, if someone uses phrases like, “I feel, or it was heartbreaking,” odds are that person is more kinesthetic. So, while talking to that person, light touch or using feelings related phrases will help you build more rapport. However, if the person uses phrases like, “That doesn’t sound right,” odds are he might be more auditory dominant. So, speaking to that person loudly and clearly so he can hear better might work better.
For optimal results, Tony suggests that you incorporate all three types of senses when you are having a conversation with someone. That includes you can speak loudly & clearly so they can hear you better, visually show things and utilize touch or words related to feelings to get your points across more efficiently.
So, in a nutshell, Tony suggests that your feelings are generated due to how your physiology is at that moment. If you change your physiology and model after those who are successful or feels great, you too can feel that way and achieve similar results like them. You can start doing that by paying close attention to your voice, thinking, physical patterns and immediately changing them when you catch yourself in an undesirable state! Also, don’t forget the five steps that allow you to model someone successfully and produces their results!